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How are you expecting him to feed himself if he can't work anywhere? There's no such thing as a men's only work place.
I agree that rape should be charged with the same severity as taking a life. But we also need to let ex felons leave that in the past if they can. There's a lot of abuse and oppression that results from permanent shunning. We made the choices in our justice system that we made because of history. Let's not repeat the mistakes of history.
I respectfully disagree. Murder is not at the same level as rape. Rape is awful and despicable, but at least you're alive to recover from it.
That's the thing, many people never recover from rape.
I think more people don't recover from death compared to rape
I'm not arguing that lol. But many people would literally rather be killed than raped and it's frequently cited as one of the things, "worse than death".
It should absolutely be punished similarly.
That sounds like a great way to make all rapists murderers.
No. There's a psychological barrier to killing, even in the mind of a criminal. That's why most murders are actually people who knew each other and had enough emotion to overcome that barrier or people who were scared/abused enough that the barrier was no longer there. (It goes away as a defense mechanism)
Many is not anywhere near all.
That is an option for the victim in a rape still, there is no option for the victim in a murder.
But it is possible to recover, and many do. There is no recovery from being murdered. Personally, I'm glad I'm still alive even if I'm still dealing with my own SA-induced trauma 20 years later.
Murder also has further externalities. When you kill someone, you take them away from their friends and families, who now have to live forever without that person in their lives.
But this whole conversation feels a lot like we're asking "who was worse, Hitler or Genghis Khan?", and it's weird to put either side on the defensive even if there is an objectively true answer to be found.
Yes, but statistically speaking the amount of people who recover from murder (being around 0 to 1, depending on if the Resurrection of Christ is a factual event or mere myth) is a tad lower than people who recover from rape induced trauma...
There is no reason why rape is judged much less severely than torture though.
I think this attitude where some traumatic event ruins people for life is toxic. Trauma is part of life. People can move on and have fulfilling lives.
I can't send a corpse to therapy for any amount of time that's long enough for them to recover from being dead, I can say differently about being traumatized..
And honestly as someone who's used therapy to recover from trauma, I find the idea that "It would unquestionably be better if you were murdered instead" to be so absurdly offensive and dismissive, as if anything of value to me and my continued existence is suddenly moot because I've become "Damaged Goods"
Seeing Murder as preferable to Rape is a highly misogynistic way of thinking that draws too much from patriarchal standards about a woman's worth.
Murder, for the victim, by definition, is not a traumatic event.
Death is always an option, revival generally isn't.