I think it's fair to take it personally that everywhere you look in society people are having kids and subtly shaming those who don't.

If you read this thread I'd argue there are more people shaming people for their choice of having children (as you appear to do) than otherwise. Basically everyone here who has a kid argues "to each their own" while half of the child free people argue "you're a selfish idiot if you have kids". One dude literally called children an STD. Another one calls it a mental illness.This isn't even subtly shaming.