I literally do blame the Democrats for Trump, and if you don't, you weren't paying attention.
Plenty of us were critiquing Clinton's campaign on those merits and were consistently talked down to in shocker the same way we're being talked down to now. Shocker, she lost. I remember saying a few weeks before the election "We're about to get Brexited." I put my vote down for Clinton, because Trump is fucking insane, and that was clear before he was President. It was clear in the fucking 1980's.
Being able to critique our leaders is supposed to be what is the difference between us and conservative voters. They're the cult who unquestioningly believes all the bullshit that comes out of Trump's mouth and diapers. I find it weird that people think we should be more like them in regards to our leaders like that would be a good thing.
You sound like a reasonable member of society...
When self proclaimed "reasonable" people insist the only way to protect democracy is to act like it's broken I don't think that measure is useful. If you want to claim democracy is worth defending then I should be able to exercise the benefits of that democracy. But if you're telling me I'm a bad person for doing that I have to ask you, a "reasonable" member of society, what benefit is democracy serving?