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The ADHD urge to lie about why you didn't do something because "my brain refused to start on it" doesn't make sense to a lot of neurotypicals. (social.beaware.live)

submitted 8 months ago by BeAware@social.beaware.live to c/adhd@lemmy.dbzer0.com

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The ADHD urge to lie about why you didn't do something because "my brain refused to start on it" doesn't make sense to a lot of neurotypicals.

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This behavior has gotten me into a lot of shit over the years😬🤦‍♂️

#ADHD #neurodivergent #neurodiversity #neurodiverse #neurodivergence #ADHDmemes

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[-] xmunk@sh.itjust.works 11 points 8 months ago

I think it's very healthy to not lie... But as a 37 year old I was raised (rather firmly) with the understanding that "I didn't feel motivated to start" was a fully unacceptable "lazy" excuse.

For me, spinning some bullshit reason is so second nature that I'll do it before I realize it might be easier to just be transparent. To further complicate things I'm such a high achiever that I can usually dig myself out of the hole before eating any real pain so... I rarely eat serious shit for my lies.

If you can be honest I think that's by far the better tactic.

[-] ULS@lemmy.ml 3 points 8 months ago

Well tbf I'm brutally honest and it hasn't really helped me.

[-] xmunk@sh.itjust.works 2 points 8 months ago

Nah, it's a good habit... It's easier to slightly temper your expression than be more direct and non-shit managers (I am one) will appreciate your candor because it let's us plan and respond better.