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Men do think about matters of the heart, but writing about it publicly could be seen as undignified, says journalist Imogen West-Knights

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[-] NounsAndWords@lemmy.world 12 points 10 months ago

There are reasons to do with the history of this particular literary form, as well. It may be that, for a number of fair reasons, women are allowed to denigrate men in print, but not the other way around. “I think some of the things I get away with saying about men would seem a bit gross from guys, because of the obvious power imbalance,” Annie Lord, British Vogue’s dating columnist, told me. Women can write about dating because on a heterosexual date, society generally accepts that women are the underdogs.

Perhaps the presumption that the same privileges equally translate to different contexts plays a part. I don't see any "fair reasons" listed here. I see a group that is allowed to say negative things about one, and another that is shut down for the same thing (but that they have fair reasons to be allowed to). Maybe nobody should be denigrating anyone and it is just, in itself, unfair to denigrate others?

On any dating advise site/community I don't exactly see women as the "underdogs" with regard to support and who is 'right' in any given situation. The first examples that come to mind are reddits dating advice and "AITA" subs where I've seen more than enough examples of the old "switching genders completely changed people's opinions" posts to not feel comfortable there.

[-] dumples@kbin.social 3 points 10 months ago

Maybe nobody should be denigrating anyone and it is just, in itself, unfair to denigrate others?

I think this is a fair point and we should really avoid denigrating everyone. However, ignore any differences between any of the genders and their assumed roles is not helpful. There are differences we just need to recognize that one isn't better or more correct than the other.

P.S. the AITA subs are always kind of a mess. Especially with people justifying their terrible behavior.

[-] joonazan@discuss.tchncs.de 2 points 10 months ago

AITA is garbage because it isn't about finding the best course of action but about whether you can pretend that your behaviour is justified, which is not helpful.

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