Elitism: the advocacy or existence of an elite as a dominating element in a system or society.

What you just described is exactly how elitism works. I understand the hate for Facebook and all of Meta's products. However, this is exactly how gate keeping starts. I don't want to see the fediverse go anywhere more than the next person but it becomes contradicting and hypocritical to the entire establishment of the fediverse if Lemmy or other federated apps begin to decide who can and can't be federated. That is the whole image right? To prevent gate keeping and to establish that not one person owns any one portion of Lemmy, Mastodon, etc. However, what happens when an entity on Lemmy does start deciding to defederate a Conglomerate starts making decisions just like Facebook? The does Lemmy not start fitting the bill of not being able to tolerate the intolerance as well? To me that becomes elitism the very thing Lemmy users swear is a perfect system.

I don't believe Meta is good for anyone or anything but Lemmy users need to understand that you can't say, "we are different." And then justifying the very contradiction of being exactly the same by just saying, "Facebook takes freedom." I don't like Facebook infact fuck them but either Lemmy users admit they need to play the game like Facebook and that someone controls who is a part of content and who isn't or they don't. Just stop trying to find ways that this would be "different" just fucking say, "we want to control the content that is on the platform and who can be a part of it." Because now you are playing the Meta game on their own terf. Just tired of Lemmy users thinking they are special.