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Do you think that dating is hard sometimes...?
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this post was submitted on 03 Jul 2023
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I have definitely told guys at the end of a date that I "want to see them again" while having no intention of seeing them again. It's a safety thing. IME guys can Jekyll and Hyde pretty hard when being rejected.
I know it can hurt feelings, but when it comes down to it, my safety > your feelings
I would never recommend putting yourself at risk, but ghosting the person after lying that you'd like to see them again is just a dick move.
What a shitty take. You can tell the guy afterwards via messaging. Not hard...
I (man) had similar experience as op and i tougth that people on dating apps are really rude for some reason that it is a apps community thing or something this scenario never occure to me as a option. Is really meeting some foreigner as a girl so scary and/or dangerous?
Yes it is scary and dangerous. Additionally, some completely flip or "just" start insulting you when you say you don't want to see them again. I am happier single than trying to go on dates and I bet that's one of the reasons only 20 % or so of the users on dating apps are women.
What a weak excuse for your shitty behaviour. You can just not tell them in person, but afterwards online.
Thats mean of you
After being threatened, stalked, followed and sexually assaulted by men I've rejected in person, I'm totally okay with being mean if it lets me avoid all that.
I'd get saying it if they ask but might not need to be said if they don't ask for a second date on the spot.