I do things little and often, the above don't work for me
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It doesn't work for me, because I know the plan. I know the intention is for this to create a cascade that results in lots of stuff happening, and so carrying the mug inherits the load of all that's intended to come after.
I don't like getting fooled, even if it's by myself, so I do nothing, like a fool.
It reminds me of a lot of simple diet advice, like smaller portions or subsititutions with less fat or sugar.
Do they think our bodies are stupid?
I also have this honestly very frustrating mindset. All this inaction and foresight is really fucking hard to get rid of sadly. I hate it
I don't look at it like fooling myself but taking a physical first step may get the brain juices flowing enough to continue the task
it's no problem if it doesn't
I'm glad it works for you, because that's probably quite helpful.
For me saying its just the first step to get the momentum needed to do the task feels like arguing I didn't kill the guy, I simply built a ramp and engineered an axe on a cart. Sure I setup a system by which ringing my doorbell would release the death cart, and sure the ramp leads directly head level to the front door, and sure I invited him over, but I think we can all agree gravity is what killed him, I wasn't even home at the time!
And to be clear, I'm not arguing with you, I'm truly happy it works for you, this is the argument I have with myself. I suggest to myself that the nice internet people say I could maybe start with just one thing, and then I respond to myself by saying if starting one thing leads to me doing more things, then doing one thing is the same as doing all the things. Then I suggest to myself I'd have to get up pretty early in the morning to try pulling that shit on me, and that I should take myself back to lawschool.
Of course, I've never been to "Law School", nor planned on it, but I've never let that get in the way of a good line!
I see what you're saying.
Add this idea to it:
Do you want to get the task done? Does the task align with your values?
If it's not for "killing a guy indirectly" but for something good. Why not take the first physical step.
When the dopamine starts flowing because your body does an action then even your frontal cortex with all it's logic ability takes a while to disable that initial dopamine.