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Im not defending chasers but for some people it is hard. Like if someones gay and their partner transitions thats a really hard thing to deal with. I think dicks are hot while not liking manly men but of course i dont have a say in a partners decision on whether they want one or not. I think the problem is when someone bases the relationship arround a fetishized part of the body and that is something the partner doesnt like about themselves. Also i think the opposite is also very common, someone not wanting to transition in a way that society demands. Thats why genderfluid and non operational trans people have it so hard. But please expand on it, i have trans family members, friends and dated some but i have no way seeing even a fraction of what yall experience as a pretty priviledged cis man.
People are allowed to have preferences. It's probably fine to state such a preference as long as it's followed by "but it's your body and you gotta do what's best for you". If that's a dealbreaker, you can let that be known in a polite way imo. But it shouldn't be used as a threat to try to push someone not to do it.
That said, my limited experience with a chaser was one showing up at my work when I was alone (and making a weird point about it ), used their job position and my job position to get me to give them my number, proceeded to complain about trans people caring about pronouns while calling us beautiful, brought up sexual harassment he has experienced on-the-job by someone who is trans, used my number to try to invite himself to visit again, and then showed up again next time I was alone at work and forgot to lock the door and leave the lights off months later to try to "flirt" with me again and mentioned I haven't been around in months (at least this time he seemed less creepy by asking if I was into guys and seemed to drop it when I said no). But from what I've heard from others, this seems pretty normal from chaser.
I mean yeah but then apparently all chasers are just committing sexual harrasment. Why are we giving them a name that suggests theyre just weird when theyre just straight up sexual predators. It seems to me we have to drop the term "chaser" and use the correct terminology of predators. I think this is what makes it confusing for people from non english speaking areas like me. Also i completely agree with the preferences part, everyone has them and theres a way of not being an asshole about them.
There is a difference between someone who wants you in spite or regardless of you being trans, and one that wants you because you are trans. If the latter, then they are a chaser. Regardless of what kind of harassment they do, if you're chasing after trans people specifically because they are trans, then you're a chaser.
There are degrees to it. This person would be a chaser even if they stopped at insulting trans people and weren't targeting me being alone at work. They just also frequently commit sexual harassment because they have no respect for trans people, but it's not a requirement for being a chaser.
I guess its a word for someone who doesnt respect trans people but is attracted to them, which is like an insane thing but the same happens to anyone whos not white too(in the west)
They are attracted, disrespectful and ashamed. That’s why they showed up when nobody else was around, that’s not just to have free reign with harassment. They’d be fine to have sex with somebody they don’t wanna be seen with in public, which is a pretty weird combo.
My last relationship like 2 and a half years ago was with a pansexual demi-girl who supported me transitioning but would like complement how it was hot that my hands were bigger than hers, and other stuff I won't mention. She gave me insecurities that I still think about, like the hands, and wince whenever I remember the sex.
For a few reasons I have like the opposite and experience like actual fear whenever I imagine what sex would be like with a pre-op trans woman. I know people talk about how awesome T4T is, but it fills me with dread. Like you're not even safe with other trans people, they still fetishize you.
I mean thats interesting cause we know how cis people love to impose random insane beauty standards on eachother but i guess the same is true for and between trans people at least in some capacity