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I've only learned about the existence of chasers recently, so I'd just have some questions so I understand it right
1: So the problem with chasers is, that they specifically want trans people before they get bottom surgery, and therefore don't support a person's full transition, but want them to stay in a state kinda in-between. Do I understand that right?
2: Why don't chasers just look for non-binary people that have the attributes they're interested in?
AFAIK different chasers look for different types, not necessarily all for same thing. The problem with chasers is that the type they chase is a fetish object. They don't look for a person to make connection, they want an object with precise physical qualities they are looking for.
Yeah it's like race fetish people, gross
what if the other person has an objectification kink though?
People with an objectification kink generally like being objectified within consentual contexts, with people they feel respected by as whole human beings outside of those interactions
I have an objectification kink, but I still want partners who see me as a whole human and treat me with respect. And who I can then invite to objectify me, because I enjoy it, and enjoy someone enjoying me in that way 🤷🏻♂️
My partner fully identifies as an object and wants to be objectified at all times. But also treated with kindness. And if that seems like a contradiction to you, then I must add that it thanks its toaster.
The problem with chasers is that they are not seeing trans women as women / trans men as men / etc. They are seeing them as a separate, fetish-fulfilling, object of desire. It is dehumanising and invalidating of their gender
Bearing in mind as well that many trans people have absolutely no intention of getting any surgery and are perfectly happy with their existing genitalia, so, many trans folk are not "pre-op" - they cannot be "pre" something they never plan to do
As far as your second question, nonbinary folks might not be feminine enough / masculine enough to fit the chaser's model of attraction, but dont you worry, plenty of chasers do fetishise and invalidate the genders of nonbinary folks! They'll subconsciously reduce them to being their AGAB or the opposite gender, and once again make them an object of fetish rather than a person.
The problem is not a specific set of traits they are looking for, but a fetishization of trans people. As per the analogy in the comic, they care more about a physical presentation or a sexualized concept than their actual desires. Objectification can be desired, but it shouldn't be the starting point or the default. For example, my girlfriend treats me like a sex object, but it's only after we've communicated our boundaries and desires. At any point, I can use a safe word and call an end to that. Chasers aren't interested in a mutual and respectful relationship, they see their porn fantasies embodied in a person.
Problem is uninvited fetishization there is also lotsa trans people who like the respectful ones fyi
Respectful chaser feels like an oxymoron, not seeing trans people as actual people is part of my definition
I think not seeing trans people as people is not requirement to be a chaser. I am a translesbian myself and I have seen straight trans people talk that they are okay with them and junk.you at entitled to your opinion and I agree with you on a personal level but I am not gonna rain on anyone's parade
But doesn't a chaser stand between a trans person and a full transition?
(Or is it even the goal of most trans people to get bottom surgery? I don't know too many trans people personally, so I'd love some input here)
NOTE: I have provided numbers for trans women, buy I do not have numbers on trans men or trans nonbinary folks. There is likely to be deviation in those groups from the data I have provided.
Estimates from the US provide that only as much as 50% of trans women want to get any type of gender-affirming surgery, let alone bottom surgery, which is the hardest to recover from, the most difficult to get, and generally among the most expensive procedures available. Current estimates also provide that about of 11% of trans women in the US will be able to get bottom surgery in their lifetime. Keep in mind that in the US, 35% of trans women do not have health insurance, making it practically impossible for most of that 35% to even get it. Of the remaining 65%, there is still significant costs to get surgery, including not only the payments to insurance, but also travel and accommodation expenses (as you'll need to remain near the hospital u get it done at for around 30 days post-op). Many of us will never have the means to get it, even those of us who want to, especially with how disproportionately poverty affects trans people.
Me, personally? I'm going to get it. I don't care what else I have to give up, I will either get the surgery, or die trying. My girlfriend is the same way. But again, only ~50% of trans women even seriously want to get bottom surgery, and that's on the larger side of the estimates.
Trans women should have agency over their bodies. We, and no one else, should have the ability to make those decisions for us. There are many trans women not interested in surgery, and that's completely fine. Surgery doesn't make a trans woman any more or less valid, or any more or less of a woman. Every trans woman is a woman, regardless of how they choose to transition. Some of us don't even want to take HRT. The idea of a "full transition" is ignorant, and transmedicalist. However a trans person wants to transition is their own business, and it's certainly not up to cis people to decide what we should do.
That being said—for the same reason of bodily autonomy that makes your description of it problematic—someone who attempts to inhibit a trans person's ability to transition in the way they want is obviously in the wrong as well. It is no one's choice but our own how we transition.
Certainly not something you bring up to strangers just trying to do their jobs.
Not every trans woman wants bottom surgery and that is not s requirement to be a chaser
It's not even about specifically wanting bottom surgery. It's more fundamental than that. You want a partner that will love you independent of your trans status. (I want to say, "in spite of your trans status" here, but that feels too negative a connotation.) But a chaser is interested in you BECAUSE you are trans. That could be a sexual fetish, or it could be someone that's maybe looking to live vicariously through you (a lot of chasers are reppers.) But the term "chaser" is literally that - a type of person that chases after trans people specifically.
I don't know enough about the topic, so this comment will be a blind leading blind. Please don't hesitate to correct me.
My understanding is that chasers would likely not be okay with bottom surgery and they would be acting more as if that person was their assigned at birth gender, but it's also not the point. The point is that they are fetishizing trans people. It is understandable that some people have a preference, however in the case of chasers it is a division between cis and trans. In other words, they don't see trans people as just people, but rather as trans in the sense that it is something separate from normalcy. Or more simply: they see trans men and women as separate from men and women.
Why don't they look for non-binary people? Some probably do, and I wouldn't hesitate to also call these kinds of people chasers. In my mind that is still fetishizing a specific group of people, though the reasoning is probably different.