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How hard are you on yourself? (piefed.cdn.blahaj.zone)
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[–] FlashMobOfOne@lemmy.world 2 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

It's not that I'm hard on myself.

It's that the world is exceedingly comfortable with telling people, in small socially acceptable ways, how inadequate they are, and that's especially true of the ones we're closest to. For instance, on Friday night I was in another town watching my nephew play a high school football game with a bunch of my brothers and their in-laws.

Over the course of the night I had my dick size made fun of by one brother and my brother's father-in-law made a comment "we got the good one" (inferring that I am not the good one), and this was just a few hours of a sporting event.

I don't see them often so I didn't make a thing of it. I probably won't hang out with this group again until there's another funeral. And, having had my heart broken innumerable times, my emotional armor is pretty good. I expect the worst out of people so I'm not generally disappointed.

That said, our species is and will always be awful to each other in basic ways. If you've ever been a fat person, gay, or a minority you know this better than most.