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I think this is a good filter (among many) that can inform someone if they want kids. There are places I go and do say, "damn, I'd love for me and my partner to have a kid and bring them here." If you don't hope for that, or if you do but aren't in a place to achieve that, by all means, don't have kids. But if you do, I'd recommend speaking with your partner(s) at least. There have been times in my life I never wanted kids. There have been times I wanted kids, but was open to not. Now I want kids. The important thing is to be true to yourself every step of the way, and communicate with people you trust along the way.
All the way, even when I go to Ikea alone, I think "I should have brought my kid, he'd love this"
Right? And like if you don't have that, that's FINE. Some do, some don't, and that should be OK either way. One thing I'm glad no one has tried with my story is saying that because I changed my mind, that others will, too; people can change their minds both ways, and people can be committed both ways. Just live true to yourself, handle your responsibilities, and it'll be OK.
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