askchapo

So you got a degree and you are not using it, do I understand that correctly? That's pretty typical honestly. What kind of work are you doing now? 10 hour days, so is it a 4x10 schedule or are you working 50 hours a week? What's your living situation?

Not trying to be invasive here, just trying to understand your situation better.

Try thinking of your life in terms of where you have agency, and how much agency you have in each place.

You should be able to come up with a list spheres where you have agency and rank them from most to least.

For example: eating healthy, this could be a high agency item.

If it's just you that you have to worry about, then you have a lot of agency to here to make the changes you want. One way you can make this change is by creating friction between you and the easier choice. This means removing apps from your phone, for example, removing saved cc details in the food app accounts, anything to make it harder or more annoying to do.

This can go for all kinds of things. The more friction you put between you and the easy/undesirable choices, the less likely you'll do them.

But you also need to make the right choices easier. Initial this might be hard to do, but it can be a compounding thing. Sometimes you might need a codependent to kick you into gear. If you have someone in your life willing to chill st your place while you food prep, that might help you get it done. Depending on your situation that could be easier said then done though.

It's not enough to talk about your struggles, you should try and sort out what is actionable and what isn't, then break down the actionable stuff into manageable bites, making it easier to get started.

And I should say that, I should be following my own advice more. Theory means nothing without practice afterall.

I think we sometimes catastrophize our situations, we extrapolate all the ways something might not work, instead of trying things and seeing what does work and what doesn't. I'm very guilty of that.