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Some days I open Instagram and it feels like everyone is winning except me.

New job. New car. New trip. Someone's "6 months of consistency" post. Someone else casually mentioning their salary hike like it's nothing.

And for a few minutes, I genuinely feel like I'm falling behind in some race everyone else is running faster than me.

I'll be honest, sometimes it's not just comparison, it's jealousy. Real, uncomfortable jealousy. The kind you don't want to admit out loud because it feels petty, but it's there.

Then I remind myself of a few things.

Nobody posts their bad days. The rejection emails, the loans, the burnout, the fights, the doubt at 2am, none of that makes it to the feed. What we're comparing ourselves to is a highlight reel, not a full life.

Everyone's timeline is different. Someone's "success" at 22 might be someone else's struggle at 22, and that's fine. Racing against a timeline that isn't yours is a losing game by definition.

The feeling is normal, but it's not information. Jealousy tells you something matters to you, it doesn't tell you that you're behind. It just means you want something. That's worth noticing, not spiraling over.

I don't have this fully figured out. I still catch myself comparing sometimes. But I'm trying to remind myself that a feed is not a scoreboard, and I'm not actually competing with strangers online.

If you've ever felt this way, how do you deal with it? Genuinely asking, not just venting.???

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[โ€“] sandhu@thelemmy.club 7 points 14 hours ago (1 children)
[โ€“] slazer2au@lemmy.world 5 points 13 hours ago

You can start by deleting the app.