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[–] iglou@programming.dev 16 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Jealousy and envy are not the same thing, although the nuance is subtle. What you're talking about is closer to envy. You can be envious of something or someone without the hostility that turns it into jealousy.

[–] pelespirit@sh.itjust.works 0 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I disagree. I believe that you choose for it to be envy or jealousy by your definition.

[–] iglou@programming.dev 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

It's not my definition. That is the subtle difference between the two words. But, most people use both words for the same thing, and most people only use the word jealousy for both things.

Merriam Webster has an interesting paragraph on the page for jealousy about it: https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/jealousy

You can also check the definitions of jealous and envious yourself, you'll see that one is defined through hostility of some sort.

The nuance is usually clear through context no matter which word you use, though. But I think that when you use it in a generic manner like you did, using the right word is best.

[–] pelespirit@sh.itjust.works 0 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

Again, both words are responses to the emotion and a choice.

[–] iglou@programming.dev 1 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

No, they stem from different emotions.

[–] podian@piefed.social 2 points 21 hours ago* (last edited 21 hours ago)

Don't blow their mind by pointing out how emotions take objects and how that scuttles their position.

[–] podian@piefed.social 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

What my friend was conveying is that envy is the want for something--usually that another has--and jealousy is the fear of losing something that one already has.

The interchangeable usage, e.g. by teenagers, based on a vague understanding is just that (for adults it crystalizes into something normative though they're probably unaware of it, ego defense mechanisms lol).

[–] pelespirit@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 day ago

And what I'm saying is, that's a choice.