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i mean, yeah, you're welcome not to date. that's fine. a lot of people are checking out because it's a losing game.
I am not checking out because I want a family and I can't make one on my own. So i have to date and hope I find someone who also wants a family.
Not many women want families anymore either. They just want to party and travel their entire life.
I don't think you realize that every reply you've made to me makes it sounds like you've already checked out of dating. You're only interested in the women who don't want you. You're calling it a losing game. You're blaming women for not meeting requirements that only you can set or change. Those all sound like rationalisations to why you're not successful in dating instead of trying a different approach or doing a bit of introspection into why what you're doing isn't working for you. Sure, on paper you're still in the game but you've made it so hard for yourself to find someone that you're effectively not even playing.
Also dating isn't a game you can win or lose. Being alone isn't a loss. Having a partner isn't a win. It's about enjoying life however you live it.
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I'm 40 dude. Yeah, there aren't many choices, and most of them are terrible choices.
But you make the best with what life offers you. And yes, life is a game you win or lose. You get the things you want, or you don't. Typically, people don't enjoy life if they don't get the things they want, and they do, if they do, and their enjoyment is directly a product of if they have obtained the things they believe they should have.
I am not blaming women for anything. I am actively dating in the trenches and I'm telling people what I see and experience. You may find that very upsetting and offensive, or feel the need to 'correct' me by lecturing me on my experiences being false or wrong, that's great for you. But it won't change anything about my life experiences or my dating experiences. You are a random stranger shouting at a random stranger how 'wrong' they are... because they are talking about things you don't like to hear or don't agree with or don't believe are real.
I am not interested in most women I meet, to be fair. Because they aren't offering anything I find desirable, but in order to determine that, I must actually socialize with them. I don't pretend I know anything about them until I have met them in person. There is always the possibility that I run into someone who is what I'm looking for, it has happened in the past! But alas, I lack the psychic abilities to know other people's preferences and desires before they have verbalized them to me.
Lecture me all you want if it makes you feel better? Dating systematically is getting difficult for everyone across multiple cultures. You can tell me that this is wrong or stupid or misogyny, but it won't change the facts on the ground being reported by the news, my sociologists, and by statistics.
Anymore than I personally, can make Donald Trump not president.