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My wife described part of the test as:
Doc: do you struggle with {simple task}?
Pt: No, not at all because I have {overly complicated system} that makes {simple task} easy for me! {explains in great detail}
Doc: congratulations, you have ADHD
P00ptart for every question that you want to answer "no, because ", instead answer "yes, which is why I have to just to manage".
My version:
Doc: do you struggle with
Pt: No, not at all because I have
Doc: congratulations, you do not have ADHD, have you tried setting phone reminders?
Omg me too. How many times docs/counselors asked me if I’ve “ever” tried to make a to-do list. I could fill six appointments describing only which “to-do” systems I’ve tried/built just in 2026 (never mind the previous 2-3 decades).
Me and my 4 nested to do list system both agree.
everything inside the angle brackets is not displaying for me, just FYI
Good doc. Problem is that I overcompensate for things, so others perceive them as a strength.
For example, appointments. There are so many things in place to show up on time, and it involves panic, thresholds, time triggers etc.The "most relaxed" method is: Casually start to get ready early by putting required things in front of the door, so it would not open without taking them. Then, at a certain time, "panic mode" is triggered; at that point, I treat it like a building-on-fire kind of situation. But the thought that "panic mode" would still fix any slack in the preparation is what avoids panic for most of the process. Panic includes flashing images of ridiculous, unrealistic escalations and consequences of what could happen from being late.
What people see: He's always on time.
Or to still get things done. I need a list of ridiculous granularity, like point 1: "create this list". Check. Then use tricks, such as "just do ONE thing from the list now", to bypass executive dysfunction.