Oh there are a bunch of great ones if you wanna stay on Lemmy, and I do recommend staying on Lemmy at the moment. At least until a De-Rimu'd fork of Piefed is available. He's been having... a time lately and that time seems to involve a lot of misunderstandings at best or outright misinformation at worst. Combine that with weaponizing his platform... eh.

For Lemmy, Dbzer0 is a good one, as proven by the fact that they have handled this with more grace than anyone else at the LW team. Quok.ka (I'm probably fucking up where the period is or missing a letter) is also a solid one with great admins. Blahaj.zone has really protective admins if you're queer and tired of dealing with bigots. Those admins tend to be a wall that deals with a ton of shit and deserve all the praise for the crap they see to protect others from. I mean all admins do but them especially with the level of bigotry. Lemy.lol just had cm0002 take over so that'll be a good spot for memes, why I started posting there recently. Lemmy.ca seems to be pretty reasonable.

I do not personally recommend lemmy.ml but I don't condemn those who use it or the admins. Just personal differences which is how lemmy be. Startrek.website has actively abusive admins and wouldn't recommend there either. Hexbear is.... hexbear.

I'm sure there are others off hand but my brain is currently a soup