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What does it mean to love someone?
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Thank you for taking the time, comrade.
The question is how do you act on these feelings, that is where the need to understand them come from. Do you wanna pursue something romantic with that person? What if you're going out with someone and you wanna know where it's heading, you wanna convey your feelings and "intentions". It is not just about you, right? Idk how to put it
My point is essentially that you can atomize your desires, and that the label for the whole will sort itself out as you find the need to quickly describe the whole, with that person or others. So if you want to give someone chocolates, then give thon chocolates. If you want to share an umbrella with someone, then share an umbrella with thon. And so forth. You don't really need labels just to act on your feelings, I don't think.
And if the person then asks you if you're in love with thon, then you don't really need to have an absolutely certain answer, either. Absolute certainty is uncomfortable and rare, and uncertainty can communicate just as much, anyways.
So if the right word evades you, then talk around it, basically.