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What do I do? How do I move on? (piefed.social)

submitted 2 weeks ago by wendyz@piefed.social to c/lesbians@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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She (23F) "Aiko" and I "Wendy" (22F) were friends who fell in love. After being together for a long time, 11 months ago I proposed to her. She said yes. We were fiancées. Well, she started spending less and less time with me, talked about her future with men and having biological kids which I simply couldn't do or be (a man and a biological father).

I ended up getting depressed in the relationship so I broke up with her. Aiko blocked me on everything and I tried waving to her when I saw her around the neighborhood. She just looked away and acted as if she did not know me.

I get she was hurt but I normally am used to the person agreeing and wanting to be my friend. What do I do about this? Do I cut contact permanently? Wait for her to be ready? What are your thoughts or experiences?

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[–] wendyz@piefed.social 4 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

It's all good. People on Reddit were getting mad at me for wanting to be her friend because I broke up with her.

[–] Nikki@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

i obviously dont have a full picture so I can't comment on the relationship/breakup, people on reddit forget that often. what's important is that you're seeing clearly and giving yourself the time you need to process everything. breakups suck so bad, it can be easy to lose yourself

[–] wendyz@piefed.social 6 points 2 weeks ago

Yeahhhhhh. Thank you :)

[–] TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 2 weeks ago

It's fine to want to be her friend; people can still be friends after a relationship. However, if she doesn't want it then there's nothing you can do.