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What I don't get is, why is everyone struggling to make friends as an adult? There's a loneliness epidemic. People are more isolated than ever and they're feeling it and say they want to make friends. People online constantly say it is difficult to make friends. Yet when I meet people IRL, no one wants to make friends at all and the struggle is real. IRL no one responds to messages, no one comes to meet ups, no one accepts invitations. It seems the masses out there are not trying to make friends and are actively turning down opportunities.....to then go home and be miserable and complain and be lonely. Is there an app or something? Tinder for friends? OnlyFriends.com could be the next thing in this tech dystopia...pay a monthly subscription to have another guy send buddy texts and memes. Relationships and parasocial relationships are comodified. Might as well do the same with friendship since people aren't giving this shit away for free anymore.
This is why I tell everyone they should join a choir or a dance class or whatever you fancy. The entry threshold is lower than for bands and orchestras, since you don't need and instrument. There's usually beginner classes for adults, so all you need to bring is yourself and a good mood.