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Went out to thrift shops to look for more tops and jeans, and found a pair of stretchy jeans that fit me nicely, as well as some pink sport shorts I can wear around the house.

The leaf leggings are my spouse's, shes a bit of a pothead when it comes to clothes lol

I don't have a mirror at home to get a full view of myself, so this is the first time I'm seeing the full view all at once of myself in full girlmode. My mirrors at home are all too small or fixed to walls lmao

The jeans:

I've tried on all the clothes from the thrift stores and they almost all fit, now once they get washed I'll have more things to wear! I'm still on the lookout for a bra my size (I'm not shopping at big box stores where possible, and I don't get thrift store undergarments) holy shit I knew it was bad for cis women who are well-endowed, but just finding my band size WITHOUT the F cups is proving quite difficult... I may have to order online. I should have bought from leolines but they're so expensive and I already spent over $50 on them this month...

Good store though, I asked them to put a small paper with "happy birthday Courtney" on it since it should arrive around then, and they were quick to respond, and quickly figured out my preferred name isn't what the order is under. 10/10.

Someone was trying to get past me while I was browsing and said "excuse me ma'am" and I have never wanted to cry more in my whole life. I didn't say anything since I'm very very early in voice training, just tried to do a high-pitched "mhmm" and stepped aside. I had to sit in the fitting room for a few minutes to collect myself.

I had to change into sweats and a t-shirt to get back into the house, but I'm still riding my high from earlier!

Next time I go out I think I want to wear a skirt but the tights I bought to cover my legs got a rip in them thanks to a park bench I sat on last week :(

I'm too self conscious to not wear something covering my legs though, especially since I'm still trying to figure out consistent hair control. I'd like to try waxing but since I want to do a FULL waxing, I need a Trans-friendly place to do it, or someone who knows what theyre doing at home.

Maybe soon I'll get brave enough to wear a sundress!

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[–] EggInDisguise@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 2 weeks ago (7 children)

I actually got an epillator the other day, and my skin seems to not like it very much. A bunch of angry red dots pop up wherever the hair was pulled from. It was making my legs so smooth though!

[–] noseatbelt@piefed.ca 6 points 2 weeks ago (6 children)

Do you tend to have sensitive skin? Maybe you need to change up your skincare routine. Or you may just need some time to get used to it. It is kind of a violent action to rip hairs out of your skin after all. It gets easier though, fewer hairs come back and I find it doesn't even hurt anymore.

[–] EggInDisguise@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 2 weeks ago (5 children)

I've never had sensitive skin before, so it's odd. I'm sure I just need to power through. I got a little unsure about it and the prickly feeling on my legs was killing me so I just used depilatory cream again...

When they get long enough to use the epilator again I'll try some more. For now I'm also checking to see how long it takes the bumps to go away. I did some as a test 3 days ago, then some more 2 days ago. Last night I used the cream and this morning the bumps are still there but nearly gone. Some aren't just bumps, it's fully a tiny scab :(

Maybe I just bought a cheap one? I know they get expensive, I'm not shelling out $160 for it though...

My skincare routine consists of "use the moisturizing lotion I got for free" and "foaming exfoliating body scrub" in the shower. So basically nonexistent 😂 I definitely need to get into one though but have no idea where to start. I love how smooth my legs feel after taking care of the hair and using lotion though. I had girlfriends in the past who would rub their legs obsessively after shaving and now I understand why!

[–] noseatbelt@piefed.ca 1 points 2 weeks ago

Don't worry, mine is extremely cheap and it does the job. I also get those tiny scabs sometimes, and for me it's from ripping out a particularly thick hair.

For taking care of your skin, don't overcomplicate it! Exfoliating is definitely a good start, and always remember to moisturise. You shouldn't need to pay an arm and a leg and incorporate 37 steps to keep your skin healthy.

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