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Many stories are heavily one sided. We only ever get one person’s side of the story and that person experienced it in one way and often doesn’t take the other person’s side into account. Not necessarily because they’re a bad person, but because that’s just how humans are. We don’t often put ourselves in someone else’s shoes and look at the situation differently or can always give someone else the benefit of the doubt.
“My boyfriend left last night without saying goodbye which he never does so obviously this means something is wrong.” When in reality, he did say goodbye, but we just couldn’t hear it over the sound of the TV in the other room. Everyone hearing the story agrees that is weird behavior and jumps to the worst conclusion along with the OP.
And then it just being the internet, people often go to the extreme on things and everyone has their own perspective from their own experiences and cultures around the world. One guy hears a story of a woman going out with her friends and he remembers how his girlfriend from years ago used to do that and she was actually cheating on him, so of course his trauma has him viewing that story through his own lens and going to the worst possible conclusion.
People forget details which can make things sound worse than they are, or they just forget to include some things that don’t always seem relevant which can greatly impact how a situation actually unfolded and give others the wrong idea. “We had an argument last night about something stupid that he’s jealous of me hanging out with my girlfriends”, neglecting to mention that he has a valid reason because you were doing some suspicious things years ago in this same way. Anyone hearing the story from your point of view is going to conclude you are the victim there without that additional context you neglected to include.
And then it just is how it is. What other advice can people realistically give? Stay with them is the only other alternative most people can muster up. Beyond that, go to therapy and that’s it. No one really has much else to offer in the way of sympathy and judgment. No one realistically knows how to navigate someone else’s relationship and all its unique dynamics, let alone their own relationships and all the variables life throws at them. We often only ever think a situation only has two options and nothing else, “break up or stay together”.
“There are always at least 3 sides to the same story: yours, theirs and the truth”