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obviously this isn’t the majority of autistic people i come across, but as an autistic person, why do some “lower support needs” autistic people make fun of/be mean to those who need more help with th (piefed.social)
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sorry if this is offensive. im autistic too and just curious. i have come across several people who are autistic making fun of or being rude to other neurodivergent folks, especially those who are autistic but need more support.

a good example of this was my ex-girlfriend “lynn". she hated my adhd + i think autistic friend (he told me he was autistic but then said he didn’t know). she would always talk behind his back on how annoying he was and would snap at him, going “mhm, yeah sure.” whenever he would talk and just being sarcastic.

lynn also, despite being autistic, said i was too weird to connect with and form a bond with and said we couldn’t be friends because we didn’t form an instant bond.

furthermore, my other ex-gf kayla questioned autism/neurodivergence. kayla also told me my autism made her uncomfortable, called me weird for having mental breakdowns and stimming, talking behind my back, and later completely ignoring my messages so we don’t even talk anymore when i tried to be her friend and forgive her.

so yeah, why don’t some neurodivergent people understand what it's like? wouldn’t it make sense for them to?

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[–] Carmakazi@piefed.social 12 points 1 day ago (1 children)

  1. It makes them feel self-conscious and unsure about how they present to others when they notice weird behavior in others.
  2. Autism could very loosely be described as "inflexibility", and things don't go well when two inflexible but non-identical people try to coexist.
[–] Catoblepas@piefed.blahaj.zone 8 points 1 day ago

There’s also just incompatible ‘autism types’. I’m very quiet and sensitive to noise, an autistic friend of my husband’s is EXTREMELY loud and physically engaged at all times. There’s nothing wrong with either of us being this way, but if I’m around him for more than an hour I start to have a sensory meltdown because I literally can’t take it. Last time I tried to power through it I actually wound up yelping in terror when he yelled unexpectedly 😅

It sounds more like the people OP is dealing with are emotionally young or immature and not sure how, able, or willing to accommodate differences or neurodivergence.