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the problem lies with defining "take all of it on"
it's not all, it's not everything,
but I do get you on timing , I waited a short while after Allie died til I got Bill. And I did tell the rspca I wanted a cat that was easy because her passing was very upsetting. ( and Bill was very healthy and young, just a bit nervous is all )
It’s not just that. I have been powering through so many major things overlapping for so many years now (didn’t really post about them) and people just kept dying around me. I’m beyond burned out. Just been endlessly in crisis and working overtime to manage everything and not even getting a moment to breathe before the next one starts.
I’m exhausted and have barely started grieving Melbcat but am now in yet another situation where I’ll have to work diligently and consistently for an extended time and experience setbacks… I just don’t think I can do it. And I don’t think I can commit to another pet again so soon.
It’s so painful because I do care about this goofy little goober and wish I could keep him. But I don’t think I can do it because I am breaking. And that’s another loss. At this point it feels like being punished for caring.
so many hugs
and it shouldn't be work, it should be a joy
I wish I could explain it to you but I can’t. Even the act of caring for someone or something you love can become a relentless grind that begins harming you.
rereading your post, it sounds to me like you need a holiday or at minimum a stay with a friend or fam in a nice place if you can
Not an option unfortunately