So, I'm a job-having asperger-type autistic man. L1ASD, I guess is the way to refer to it currently.
Shout out to all the non-job havers and everything in between, I get that I'm fortunate enough to have been able to manage to navigate through life and somehow sustain a career (in tech ofc).
OK - here's my thing. My boss was fired last week due to corpo doing what corpo does, not because he did anything wrong, and he was a good dude that was supportive and wasn't bothered by the fact that I am autistic and that I have certain communication-related differences than the rest of the team. He was kind of stablizing presence too for others on my team that are less understanding.
I have to tolerate teammates that lowkey openly mock me for my communiction challenges. Some of them know I'm autistic and are just ableist dicks that are mad they can't throw around the r-word like they used to, others in the extended team don't know but follow the lead of someonw who does. Whatever, not the point its just life.
Now I will have a new boss in about a week, I expect I will disclose to them to at least make an attempt for them to try to not judge my autistic persona in the arenas where it is most debilitated. You know I want them to suspend that surface-level jusdment and hold off for a character judgement instead, where I'm pretty solid and would prefer to have my value judged. Of course this isn't how people work and sadly we see today the cultural tides pushing back against diversity, and that includes the neuro kind.
I know I can't control this but I hate having to figure out somoene new, especially a boss. I know that things change, and like many of you I like consistency. I at least like to be in the driver's seat when change is required.
I am just feeling so drained. Thanks for reading.
I totally get what you're saying. Having a good boss is like winning the lottery. And mgmt changes most of the time they suck.
I really wish you to get a good manager, and actually better colleagues as well.
I've been very grateful for my manager, I loved working with her for so many years. Now she's been promoted and her position is to be replaced. The sad thing is that in the span of one year my team's management has changed 3 times already. And not for the better. On paper it feels like it should be better but in reality every week is worse than the previous.
Fortunately I at least don't experience any mobbing from my colleagues, but I see that everything's getting worse and I get anxious and stressed out. I just want to do my job as I used to. I liked my job because it was as it was. Now it's not and I hate it.
I'm even considering changing company or even career, but it's not a good moment in my life to do it. So I just kinda wait and hope that things will get better in the end. Sometimes they do.
I don't know what to tell you, I'm not great at comforting people, that's why I shared my experience, to let you know that I understand the pain of losing a good manager.
I can offer a virtual friendly autistic hug, if that's your thing, otherwise feel free to refuse it :) I wish you a great day, and hopefully things will get better soon ❤️
Thanks for relating. It does feel good to be understood. I know you'll agree. Hug accepted.