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Looking for advice: toddler is hurting her Grandma (thelemmy.club)

submitted 2 days ago by philanthropicoctopus@thelemmy.club to c/parenting@lemmy.world

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Hi everyone

Proud girldad of a beautiful 1 year old here. Life is good and I now love being a father.

We are just having one problem. She attacks her Grandma and leaves nasty scratches on her face. We aren't sure how to proceed.

What we do currently is if she attacks, we firmly say "no, we don't treat grandma like that" and then encourage gentle touch. It's not working.

We are firmly against physical discipline, we tried time out once but she went mental, possibly she's too young for time out.

Can you tell we're first time parents? Haha

Any advice would be appreciated

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[–] AnchoriteMagus@lemmy.world 11 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Giving in when you put her in time out just sends the message that if she screams, she gets her way. She needs to learn that you're in charge, and letting her scream it out in a safe time out or controlled activity space would be an essential first step.

[–] moakley@lemmy.world 7 points 2 days ago

Seconding this. I had a two-year-old who was a biter. Time outs just meant him playing in his pack-and-play.

The doctor said to be more aggressive about time outs. She basically said to make sure he's crying, so he knows that it's a punishment. When he got old enough to understand a more wholesome approach we switched to that, but there was a time when letting him be upset was the only thing that worked.