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The world doesn’t want to destroy them. It’s mostly indifferent.
If you only perceive yourself as a victim, you don’t see the agency you actually have.
The only ones I blame are those who sell mental illness as a lifestyle identity. They aren’t actually helping. This is part of what keeps people stuck.
I don’t blame anyone for not being perfect.
Incredible, honestly this a stupendously incredible thing to say with a straight face.
Yes it is clear you have drawn a line clumsily between righteous blame and unfair blame like a President claiming they can know where a hurricane will go by drawing a cartoon on a satellite picture with a sharpie but the problem is not only is the distinction between "good sufferers of mental illness" and "bad sufferers of mental illness" inherently one frought with grey areas it also fails at the axiomatic level that you are assuming you aren't full of shit, biased or necessarily riddled with blind spots in your empathy.
We are all full of shit, biased and riddled with blind spots in our empathy. That is why we strive to develop philosophies and ways of seeing the world that always invite us into more open and accepting versions of ourselves. We need to find ways of probing the incomprehensible parts of the world that actively catch us when we step into the daydream of hate. This is emphatically NOT what your world view does and it is why it is toxic.
In other words even if you worldview here was correct, in order for you to apply it in a truly loving way you would have to be God and have perfect knowledge of everyone around you who is suffering to determine whether they were performing or experiencing suffering a mental illness.
I regret to inform you but you are not God and therefor this way of looking at the world is toxic.
You believe in judgement before helping and that is what makes you ugly.