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  1. I looked like a 10 year old girl the entire time I was in school and didn't attract any boys. My breasts only started growing after I graduated from high school and they're still small. I still look underage and still don't attract any men my age. I have never known a man to call me beautiful or hold the door for me, I don't know how to flirt and I can't imagine myself doing it.

  2. My mother always did all the work for me. Even when I was going to wash the dishes myself, shed snatch the plate out of my hands and wash it herself. Yes, I was the problem too, I wasn't persistent enough, but I was a lazy and apathetic child, and if someone did something for me, I never minded. Especially when my mother did it, it seemed natural to me. I didn't know that many girls my age already knew how to cook. Now I have to learn all of it myself and I feel incredibly pathetic as a woman.

  3. This close bond between mother and daughter is alien to me. I've never been close to my mother, I almost never shared my feelings with her. Partly this is because of my school years, when I had problems with other kids, and I didn't say anything to her so as not to upset her. And also, we are just very different people. She is very sociable, likes to talk for hours without expressing a single complete thought. I feel like a terrible daughter, but I just have a hard time to tolerate it, I tried, but I can't. I communicate much better with my father.

  4. I dont know how to look good. When all the girls in my school wore makeup, I didn't have any. When I was finally able to buy it myself, I looked really ridiculous. So much time has passed, and I still can't put makeup on well on this face. When I buy clothes for myself, they look stupid, it seems like I have no idea what suits me and what doesn't, and I don't know how to combine them well. I even watched video tutorials on this, but it doesn't help. I'm always amazed by schoolgirls with good makeup and stylish clothes. It's as if other girls have some kind of innate talent for it, but I don't.

There's a lot more I could say, but that's the gist of it. I don't know what to do, and I'd like to hear what other women with similar experiences think, but I wouldn't mind hearing what men think, too.

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[–] Lodespawn@aussie.zone 2 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

Maybe start hitting a gym for number 1? Probably not an immediate fix but strength training makes you feel good and you can work the bits that promote the classic feminine form. Also the gym can be an okay place to meet people.

Focus on leg, butt and core exercises (squats, leg press, deadlift, standing calf raise, hip thrusts, hack squat, split squat, lunges, bird dogs, planks, side planks etc), do some upper body will help with grip and maintaining a strong back (face pulls , lat pulldowns and seated rows would be fine, could include some chest press).

Start light, build up quick to a weight you can just do 12ish reps with, with the last couple of reps being a struggle to complete, aim for 4-8 sets of each per week. Watch videos and get some staff help for form with squats and deadlifts.

Also check out the classes the gym offers, yoga and pilates are awesome for core, body combat is good for stamina.