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[–] DawnOfTime@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 week ago

I just wrote a full post and proton just straight up deleted it when I previewed it TnT So I'll repost the short version I guess :

Have been on HRT for 7 months, love it. However I went out "as fem" and it felt very violent. The looks were the ones like they saw some disgusting trash-covered monster emerging from a sewer. Especially when I'm alone and people can hide their hatred in the crowd.

While this is expected transphobia... well, I thought I passed a bit better. I've been told, I pass a bit better. Not 100% but, eh, pretty ok. I worked hours on my voice, on my wardrobe, my make up, my posture... and it's just reduced to nothing in front of strangers' look.

So here I am, asking you the question : Does it get any better ? Do I have to feel the breath of shame of 90% of cis people all my life now ? Or is HRT gonna come down like an angel from the sky and offer me the passing I dream of ? Or at least, do you learn not to care (and how to learn such magic) ?

Sorry if it sounds like panicking, but it kind of is. After yesterday's hangout with the local trans association, I went home and could sleep for days. I felt exhausted by the looks. I just want to live my life...