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[–] glitchdx@lemmy.world 30 points 2 days ago (3 children)

If you want to know why men with basic decency are so oblivious, head on over to the womens stuff community and see how many posts boil down to "all men are rapists". I'm friends with several real life women, and most of them hold that same opinion and have damn good reasons for it ("Except you glitch, you're one of the good ones"). More than one have expressed to me that they hate being straight because they've never dated a man who hasn't taken advantage of them.

So yeah, I'm not making a move on a lady, well mostly because I'm gay, but even if I wasn't I wouldn't unless she explicitly asked for it. (I'd also have to run it by my boyfriend, and ask if she wanted a threesome with us, but that's another topic.)

[–] teslasaur@lemmy.world 13 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

Reminds me of an interaction my friend had with a girl that he usually just had casual sex with. She asked him if they could do some rougher stuff, things that definitely would leave a physical mark. He said OK, but ONLY if she wrote up a statement beforehand explaining that this is in fact something she wanted to have done to her.

There isn't a single iota he could have said or done if she decided after the fact that it wasn't for her and just reported it to the police. Most decent guys are very cautious about being wrongly accused, as the fallout entails the same thing as actually having violated someone.

I'd say most guys are as afraid of being accused of violence as most women are afraid of being exposed to it.

[–] TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 3 points 2 days ago

I've dated plenty of women who lecture me about 'enthusiastic consent' and condom use and safe sex. but if you try to practice it with them in the bedroom, they call you a pussy and tell you to grow a pair and how they just want you to make them feel like a rape victim. they are often two-faced.

it's stupid and insane and no well-intention ed person is going to do that. only violent weirdo nutcases are going to want to do that. And plenty of them see nothing wrong with being verbally of physically violent towards men that disappoint them. violence is only bad if it's done to them, it's totally OK if they do it to other people, especially men.

[–] Wren@lemmy.today 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Let's check out womens stuff... arts and crafts, cute outfits, articles on women's health, weekly accomplishments, friday games, memes... did not see a single comment or post calling all men rapists. Probably because it goes against the rules.

[–] glitchdx@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

sounds like today is a good day. To be fair, I only pay them a visit when they hit the all feed so my observation may be heavily skewed.

[–] Wren@lemmy.today 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I was looking at the last month. Mind linking where they call all men rapists?

[–] glitchdx@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I block those posts when I see them, so no I don't have links

[–] Wren@lemmy.today 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

That's because you made it up. I've been commenting and posting to that community for months. Most of the comment sections don't even mention men.

[–] glitchdx@lemmy.world 0 points 1 day ago (2 children)

So how do I move into the universe you live in? Sounds better than the reality I'm in.

[–] Honytawk@discuss.tchncs.de 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

You stop taking crazy pills provided by manosphere grifters.

[–] glitchdx@lemmy.world 0 points 1 day ago (1 children)

how do I stop doing something that I've never done?

[–] Honytawk@discuss.tchncs.de -1 points 1 day ago

*you think you never done

Your comments prove otherwise.

Maybe try some introspection instead of blaming your own problems on women? A handful of supposed women online are not representative of an entire gender. It is like blaming all men for the actions of a couple of incels.

[–] Wren@lemmy.today 0 points 1 day ago (1 children)

You can start when you stop lying about benign shit.

[–] glitchdx@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

At worst, I'm guilty of exaggeration. I've described my experience. You've described yours. We're done here.

[–] Wren@lemmy.today -1 points 1 day ago

At worst, you made it up to join a circlejerk. Just clarifying that for ya.

[–] gandalf_der_12te@discuss.tchncs.de 4 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

head on over to the womens stuff community and see how many posts boil down to “all men are rapists”.

basically online feminism is super toxic. don't take it serious. women in real life are not like that, at least most aren't.

in fact i even suggest that these people are online because they can't deal with real life.

[–] captain_aggravated@sh.itjust.works 5 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I'm sick of this lie that the internet isn't real.

Have you ever heard it said that character is who you are in the dark? Kind of a Jungian take, the whole "you change your persona depending on environment and company, you're only ever your true self when you think nobody's watching."

Well, I think the internet is "in the dark." It brings out the actual in people.

[–] Schadrach@lemmy.sdf.org 1 points 1 day ago

The G.I.F.T. Later referred to in actual research as the online disinhibition effect.