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[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 1 day ago* (last edited 22 hours ago) (2 children)

as a woman (and maybe this is more of a thing in the Southern US), I find it's important to wear a ring to signal to men that I'm not available (not that this is like foolproof, there are men who will still transgress those boundaries, but ... it feels like a kind of social shield for sure)

and it is also important to wear both the engagement and the wedding ring together - conservative culture is weirdly catty about that

[–] foodandart@lemmy.zip 1 points 16 hours ago* (last edited 16 hours ago)

Yeah, I'm not the kind of woman that men would hit up on (too butch..) and now of course I'm old and weathered and other than the really old guys that appreciate someone that can tune up their own car (I have had men decades older than I am, come up to me and shake my hand when working on the car in the driveway.. go figure!) no one looks twice at me. What I wear also doesn't help. LOL!

[–] saimen@feddit.org 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

The fact that I know you mean the South of the United States of America exactly because you did not say the country annoys me so much. Sorry for the off topic rant.

[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 22 hours ago

ah good point, I edited it to add the country. It's true there is a US-centrism both in the mindsets of Americans, but also online in general (at least in English speaking spaces), so it does become a kind of "default place" that way

yay imperialism 🫠