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Mine:

  1. Learn a second language and keep up with the language your parents speak. You will regret being a brat about not wanting to speak this language especially as your family members pass.
  2. The only opinions about you that really matter are from the people you respect and who respect you back
  3. Being a kind humble person, who leads their political convictions with curiosity and not self righteousness is important. As that one person said: "I am no hero and neither are you."
  4. Don't throw out your old media (mix cds, tapes, records, photos, zinee, etc) because you think they're embarrassing. They either will not be embarrassing later or they will become expensive and you can tell them for mad bucks.

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[–] lvxferre@mander.xyz 1 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

Those are all things I wished I have learnt when I was younger:

  1. Always ask yourself, "do I know this?". If you don't know, do not act as if you did.
  2. Keep the distinction between how things are and how things should be crystal clear. Wishful thinking only causes harm.
  3. Some people are best avoided. More on that later.
  4. You will fuck it up, because you're only human. Be kind with yourself and learn with your own mistakes.
  5. Have moral principles and stick to them. They don't need to be the same as mine, or of anyone else; but do have something to guide your actions and judgement.

On #3, I feel like it's best to avoid people who:

  • insist after you told them a clear "no".
  • keep fucking things up, and evoke in their own defence "but I thought that..." or "trust me" or "I had good intentions".
  • accuse you based on their assumptions. (You're responsible for what you do/say; you are not responsible for shit the others make up based on what you did/said.)
  • oversimplify complex matters.

Probably more. Point is, though, not everyone is a plus in your life.