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Is it possible that any of them ever got it wrong?
The amount of people who detransition is incredibly small compared to the overall trans population, and even then most people detransition because society didn't accept them and battered them down until they gave up.
I take that as a yes, people can be wrong about themselves and who they think they are.
People can be wrong about literally anything. That is not an excuse to say "fuck everyone else in this group."
If you extend this argument, we shouldn't believe what anyone tells us about absolutely anything because they might have made a mistake. Truly a great basis for human society.
Why would you presume that questioning someone's beliefs would mandate to treat them like shit? What a bizarre worldview. Everyone deserves to be treated with kindness and respect, whatever they believe.
But your beliefs about the world do not dictate my beliefs about the world. That is surely not a hard concept to grasp?
Because there's an explicit bias in your questioning. You wouldn't question if I'm really cis-hetero, but you would question of I'm reeeeeeeeally gay or trans, even thought I'm sure there are more people who come up publicly as gay after having children than there are trans detransitioning.
This is the same as the maga mentality, where any man in a position of responsibility is accepted by default, but for women they demand justification for the role.
Isn't there an explicit bias in your statement? I think it's kind of relevant that the vast, vast majority of humans don't even consider this stuff, because they take no issue with accepting that they are men of women. Is that wrong? Are people wrong to think that it's ok to just be what you are? I genuinely don't get it.
By far, by every metric, people are divided into men and women. There are rare exclusions, and those people should be treated just as well as everybody else. It doesn't matter who they love or what they identify as. They are humans as every human, but it's bizarre to demand that the totality of humanity abandon their intuitive instincts about masculinity and femininity.
I mean by your own argument, surely normal "CIS" people (whatever that means, I genuinely don't know, I don't keep up with ideological abbreviations) also have a right to be heterosexual women and men. Are they not allowed to believe what people have believed for literally millions of years? I find that offensive. I extend you the courtesy to believe to be whoever you wish, and I acquiesce. Surely you should be able to do the same, otherwise you're just dictating your beliefs and demanding everybody accepts whatever it is that you say.
Bruh I don't even know what that means. I don't keep up with the nomenclature. And genuinely, you need to check your own bias before accusing others. It's always accusations and moral condemnation. Like, I don't care. You do you, I do me. I just try to treat people nice and leave it at that. You don't get to dictate what I should or shouldn't feel or think.
(huh that's weird my comment doesn't show up so I post it again, my bad if I double post)
Bruh I don’t even know what that means. I don’t keep up with the nomenclature. And genuinely, you need to check your own bias before accusing others. It’s always accusations and moral condemnation. Like, I don’t care. You do you, I do me. I just try to treat people nice and leave it at that. You don’t get to dictate what I should or shouldn’t feel or think.
"Wrong" is probably not the best term for it. People's understanding of their own identity can evolve over time, but their own assessment of their sense of self will always be the most accurate barometer to go by. Yes, some people detransition, but as others have stated they're a small minority and ultimately that's their decision to make whether it's due to a change in how they identify or pressure from external forces.
But to the original commenter's point, we should just allow people to be the masters of their own identity and meet them where they are at any given point. If that were the case, the idea of getting it "wrong" wouldn't be a big deal at all, they could simply give us an update and the world keeps turning.
Does this claim extend to people who are schizophrenic?