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It's... Actually kinda hard for me to make a guess. I think overall it's probably more even than you'd expect. All things being equal (sex drive, being into your partner, etc) straight women outnumber gay men. 51% of the population are women (ish), and about 5% are gay men. Assuming everyone's taken, and everyone has roughly the same ssxual activity, you'd be looking at around 5x the blowjobs in gay relationships (on average there will be more penises to be sucked in gay relationships than straight)
However things aren't equal. People who're trans are also more likely to not be straight (about 17.6% of trans people overall self-ID as straight), but that'll skew the numbers in a lot of different directions because of surgery, and dysphoria.
I'm actually curious how heavily heterofatalism affects this, as well. A lot of straight people seem to hate their partners, though I've been seeing less of that ball and chain type stuff recently than I had in previous years. But also a lot more people are just single than before, so that'll play into it.
I would say it's also age dependent, but there's not much of a difference. Over 40s report having sex about 69 (nice) times per year on average vs 25-34s report about 90 times a year. With retirement communities frequently being STI hotspots I'm not that surprised tbh (condoms do more than prevent pregnancy!)
Only now did I remember that we have statistics about a lot of things. Straight women give oral sex an average of 5.14 times per month. Gay men are 5.3x per month. So yeah. Gay men give fewer blowjobs overall, but more per capita, and gay coupled will have a little more than double the amount of blowjobs. Assuming about 5% of the population is gay men, and only looking at couples, we're looking at about 1 out of every 6 blowjobs being from a gay man.
... These are the thoughts that kept me out of the good schools.
You should have gotten a statistics scholarship. This is the basis of a Master's thesis.
I didn't expect to receive such high praise on a post about blowjobs, but hey I'll take it!
It wasn't about blowjobs, it was about statistics. Get your mind out of the gutter.
I did a web search on that phrase, and found a number of sources which cite it as the average number of times the average American gives oral sex. But they all leave out the definition of average: Does this number represent the number of blowjobs given in a year, divided by the number of straight women, divided by 12? These are infographic-type sites that cite each other, and I don't have time to chase down the original source of that number, but it seems unlikely.
One of the pages that I found reported that 59% of women* give oral sex. So if 41% of women give 0 blowjobs in a month, those 59% have to pick up the slack. Then, subtract the proportion of women who would, but are not currently sexually active. That would leave a much smaller group giving a lot more oral sex, if that was the definition of average. (I guess the 28% of women who describe giving it as pleasurable are each doing it more than 20 times in a month?)
Instead, I suspect that that number describes the number of times that sexually-active Americans who engage in oral sex give it in a month, which makes for a very different total number. (Or, if it really is # of blowjobs / # of straight women, I'm going to be very upset with whomever is getting my share.)
* I learned from this research that 52% of straight men give oral sex. WTF, guys?
From the people I know, the ones who enjoy it do end up giving oral 20+ times a month if they're in relationships with partners who they live near enough to be giving it most nights.
Wouldn't surprise me, yeah
Yeah, I mean only 59% of women do, that's not that different? It's not rounding errors levels, but still
Only time in this thread that anyone even tried to bring blowjob statistics to the table instead of just assuming! Would love to see that statistic. Was it for every straight/gay person, regardless of relationship status? Only in relationships? If it's the latter, that could skew the numbers quite a bit considering gay male hookup culture.