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As someone who has been advocating for the use of the federated Matrix protocol for a long, long time now, the proliferation of new, competing options actually is frustrating to me. Technically Matrix is actually already fleshed out very well, has several different clients, and even has Thunderbird support so if you're already using Thunderbird you don't even need a separate client.

The beginnings of Matrix go back as far as 2014 so it honest has at this point 12 years of development behind it. I know Matrix has it's issues, but it's by far the most secure combined with being able to communicate with large groups of people via federation. There's definitely slightly more secure options, because they lack federation (and thus don't leak metadata), but I personally am ambivalent about them because some of them have a kind of crypto-bro feel to the companies behind them and I'm skeptical they won't go down a path similar to Discord while Matrix on the other hand has been slowly but surely leveraging itself into a position of secure government communications all over Europe. So, to me, Matrix already has a game plan for staying relevant and staying solvent, while things like SimpleX or Stoat I'm just waiting for the other shoe to drop and for the enshittification to begin

Open source bona-fides are great and all, but for a lot of these messengers, I absolutely think not enough discussion is made regarding their financial plans to stay afloat whereas the reality is that while Matrix doesn't exactly have money coming out their ears, they have a slow, steady gameplan that is working out so far.

The whole reason everyone moved to Discord was because it was a centralized place and since Discord needed to pay for it's servers, it had to find a way to finance that, and enshittification naturally happened. I think it would be foolish to pretend that can't happen again with several of the current alternatives.