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This post is lengthy but it carries a question I have been thinking about for a long time, thank you for opening it :]

Introduction

I will present a writedown of my thoughts on the topic, you may read it if you want to discuss my perspective. I'd be equally delighted to just read some thoughts or opinions from you.

My perspective

I'm at least questioning my current identity, however I'm often troubled by the problem stated in the title.

Gender Roles/Stereotypes

I consider gender roles outdated and problematic at least. This is possibly stemming from the fact, that I'm unhappy with the one assigned to me. In case I was too ambigous: I'm thinking about constructs including but not limited to:

  • Men should be strong, they may pursue technical interests.
  • Women are caring and supportive, their primary interests should be of a social nature. They care about looks and feels

I think these prejudices are actively harmful to non-conforming people, since they may be perceived as socially inept or weird (consider young adults/school).

Transgender Identity

On to the Trans Identity Part. I have gained the impression that transitioned people are doing their best to fulfill the roles and stereotypes assigned to their desired gender.

Conclusion

To me, it seems like efforts towards gender equality, and therefore the abolishment of stereotypes are clashing with trans peoples desire to fit in with society.

I see both sides, they have motivation I can understand, it feels like a conflict that cannot be resolved.

Thank you for sitting and reading through this, I'd be happy to discuss anything related.

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[–] RumorsOfLove@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 23 hours ago

I like exploring taking on roles. And taking off roles when it feels more comfortable. I play roles, but I try to avoid being defined by them.