GenZedong

not usamerican but turbo vassal state and yeah. it’s pretty basic for me and it was very incessant throughout all of my childhood (i’m still in school but they’ve cooled off cuz i’m not a 5 year old anymore) and even when i was 5 i was like Okay i get it. but i still don’t hate the idea of it because my dad when he heard about it was like holy shit this changes my whole life and i was like oh okay if it makes you happy

Idk but you can get better at anything by practicing and studying.

I did not have that experience, but the first thing I found in searching it on the web was an article about being an entrepreneur, so I can see what the problem may be lol. 💀 Probably gets warped into an individualist/idealist "overcome through power of will" thing. I know when I was doing therapy, I had times it seemed like my therapist was caught up in some thing about individual power of will and not properly acknowledging systemic factors.

Problem is, a lot of mainstream "advice" is there to redirect you back into integrating with capitalism and away from criticizing it, so they warp frameworks that may otherwise have legitimate aspects to them, toward that purpose.

The research around it is true, in that believing you can get better at something helps you get better at it more than if you think you are "genetically predisposed" to a certain level of performance in said task.

I think your experience of it being infantilizing is more due to the general cheesiness of psych and health learned in school when you're young. When you're young, you're told all these ideas about eating healthy, sleeping early, adopting healthy psych techniques to help you succeed, like the growth mindset. At the time, we often disregard them as just irrelevant things that adults tell us, only to find out when we're older that everything they said was right and they just kind of sucked at explaining it.

I myself am going through this revelation of eating healthier, sleeping better, learning useful techniques in therapy that all were touched on in grade school, but I didn't take seriously back then until I ran into the problems I feel now.