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A maga person has just threatened my family, what's to do next? (lemmy.world)

submitted 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) by Nebraska_Huskers@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I got in a political argument with some clown on Facebook. He managed to retrieve my wife's cell phone number and our home phone which is unlisted and technically just provided by our Internet company that we never use.

None our personal info is really available on Facebook and our profiles are pretty locked down, but he called my wife's phone a few times last week which she has blocked and never answers. Comes up as anonymous on her id.

He tried our home phone 16 times which I ignored, everything stopped, he called again tonight. I decided to answer. He said he knows where I live my wife and daughters name, and our address. He never gave out that though and that he is coming to kill us. Said that on the line

I have called my local police department. But this is rural Nebraska they said they can't do anything or have our phone companies run a trace.

Is there anything I can do to figure out who this guy is?

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[–] fizzle@quokk.au 90 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (22 children)

If he were going to physically harm you or your family in any way, he wouldn't be harassing you on the phone. He's legit just trying to scare you.

The best approach here is to "grey rock" him, which in this case just means not answering. You said you don't use the home phone so just disconnect whatever device. You said your wife has blocked him so that's sorted. Close your fb account or don't log in or whatever.

Call the police and make an actual report to get an actual report number. Here any kind of threat made over a "wire service" is a crime. They may not investigate but that's not the point, in the infinitessimal chance the guy escalates, you want some history.

Refresh home security without going nuts. Maybe a ~~ring~~ door camera, make sure window locks are installed.

Then just go about your life, but maybe avoid throw down arguments on fb.

Edit: don't buy a ring camera.

[–] prole@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 3 months ago

If he were going to physically harm you or your family in any way, he wouldn’t be harassing you on the phone.

I think it's dangerous to apply logic and reason to these people.

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