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Exposure therapy for shyness (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) by reabsorbthelight@lemmy.world to c/parenting@lemmy.world

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My 5.5yo daughter is very shy, so I've been pushing her into hobbies to help managing her shyness. I've talked about how being shy is fine, but it's something to work on, otherwise she'll have a really hard time making friends. I'm shy and told her about that.

I took her to a gymnastics class (we do gymnastics together at open gym), but she refused to join the class. I said if she does one activity (even just a game at the end), I'll get her ice cream. We spent the time sitting on the side.

She didn't do it, so I figure no ice cream then. She's pretty mad. I'm not mad with her, but just of the opinion that we had a deal, and if she wants the reward, she needs to earn it.

Too harsh? Too soft? Alternatives?

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[–] reabsorbthelight@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago

I've tried a number of different hobbies and it's a struggle usually. With an art class she was crying beforehand, but I sat next to her and she was fine after the first class. She has fun and laughs as she makes silly stuff.

The "forcing" is just the first couple times, but she'd literally just stay home eternally if I didn't make her do things. Other than at least one exercise/movement hobby for health, I kind of don't care what the hobbies are, but want her to do something.