A lot of replies here (obviously from people not already aware of The Discourse on this point) were genuinely confused variants on "But why, they're right, that's a valid concern." Let me leave a short thread for future readers explaining why that stuff is always unwelcome on here. (1/n)
It's totally understandable if you're dooming about any facet of the American experiment right now. So your feelings are "valid" in the sense that they represent real anxiety, and I get that. But to vent that anxiety in other people's spaces is wrong for three reasons.
First, it's factually wrong. There will be elections in 2026 and 2028 under Trump, just like there were elections last year under Trump and during his first term. This despite one of the two major parties now harboring a lot of anti-democratic elements and ideas.
I'm not particularly interested in convincing anyone on this point and won't try, the future is the future. But if the left side of the political spectrum is still the domain of scholarship and expertise, take note that you don't find scholars and experts you worrying about canceled US elections.
Second, and probably most importantly, it's tactically wrong. "No point discussing political opposition to fascism, there won't be elections anyway" cedes victory to your enemies. It's defeatism and nihilism.
Finally, it's wrong AS A MATTER OF ETIQUETTE. Entering a total stranger's discussion and leading with your private anxiety is as off-putting in social media replies as it would be in real life. If you wouldn't interrupt a stranger at a party to announce that America is doomed, don't do it here.
If you are anxious and sad about the state of the world, that's fine, and there are plenty of strategies for dealing with that. But I think you already know that drive-by online dooming isn't a strategy. It's selfish and adolescent. It's a contagion that only spreads the worst of you, not the best.
Take a second and think before posting the easy Eeyore reply. You might have something substantive to say instead. Or, even better, you can say nothing at all.
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That's not what I or they said though. You can express displeasure or concern without injecting misery into a conversation. Or, most people can. It's actually ok if some people can't but really those people should have the good grace and good sense to keep it to themselves if they're not able to moderate themselves.
This reminds me of the people who only are around when good things are happening in thier life, and dip at the slightest discomfort.
This mindset you have, to have good grace and good sense to "keep misery" from conversation feels a bit like putting ones head in the sand.
"In polite society we don't talk about dark things that make people uncomfortable" is exactly how we got here. Get some courage and face reality. This reads like all conversions should be bubble wrapped so the misery of reality doesn't touch you in your feely feels. Thats what's juvenile to me. Heaven forbid you face hardship's misery. Oh no
The family in the film, "The Zone of Interest" sure knew how to keep polite society didn't they?
I'm not saying it's never appropriate to say how you truly feel, but it's genuinely important not to contribute to the doom-mongering, so doing it on social media I'd say is not appropriate.
Talking about your childhood trauma is not something you should bring up on a first date, to take an obvious example. It's not nice to spring that on your date for one, and it's also just not a good idea for reasons of self-interest. Even if it's really on your mind and you really want to talk about it.
talks about childhood trauma on a first date
We wouldn't be friends, and that is okay.
Camus said: "Seeking what is true is not seeking what is desirable"
I happen to agree. I don't judge, nor does it make me uncomfortable, when people need a space to talk about whatever. If it's painful, I empathize, for I know pain.
The US may not have free and fair elections again. This is a valid concern, hiding behind your social intellect or whatever, isn't going to change the reality. Doesn't change a public forum from being public.
If you're genuinely concerned that the US may not have free and fair elections again, you shouldn't be talking about it in the way exemplified here, because it makes it more likely to happen. Simple as that.
Great, but the purpose of conversation or online discussion is not solely about seeking what is true. The purpose of political discussion is often to obtain the political changes you think will bring about a better society. The purpose of going on a date is to find a partner (well, that's a main purpose.)
Bringing about positive political change often requires speaking the truth, but it doesn't require speaking every truth. Some are irrelevant. Some are relevant but distracting. This particular one (if it is true), when presented in this way, is defeatist. The fight against fascism is a fight and if you need to be economical with the truth to win it, that is better than losing, at which point there will be no truth except that which the neo-Gestapo permit.
Finding a romantic partner requires finding out true things about each other, but it also requires not violating boundaries. If I were to go on a date and the other person trauma dumped, or told me about their last bowel movement, it matters not one iota if those things are true! They are in fact red flags because if they don't understand that those are violating boundaries, it's likely they don't understand or will transgress other ones. Now, I'm not likely to go on any dates any time soon because I've been with my partner for years, and so it's now appropriate for us to talk about any such thing because we're very close.
Maybe you're a saint, and willing and able to listen to trauma anywhere, any time. I actually doubt it though; few people are. So I think more likely you understand that you can't just dump that stuff on people at any time and expect good results. I think you won't even have to dig deep to think of a time someone has said something true that nevertheless upset you.
If you truly can't think of a time, then I think you'll have an even easier job thinking of a time it happened to someone else, because it's extremely common. If say you can't even think of that then I'm afraid I don't believe you're trying.
I'm going to abstain from answering so I don't upset your boundaries, I might inject misery.