Dull Men's Club
An unofficial chapter of the popular Dull Men's Club.
1. Relevant commentary on your own dull life. Posts should be about your own dull, lived experience. This is our most important rule. Direct questions, random thoughts, comment baiting, advice seeking, many uses of "discuss" rarely comply with this rule.
2. Original, Fresh, Meaningful Content.
3. Avoid repetitive topics.
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Use a search engine, a tradesperson, Reddit, friends, a specialist Facebook group, apps, Wikipedia, an AI chat, a reverse image search etc. to answer simple questions or identify objects. Also see rule 1, “comment baiting”.
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Just trying is a good first step. You don't need to finish it. Just try and see how it goes.
Maybe try to spend time in your car just sitting. Then getting comfortable with your seat position. Then put things around your car to get some imagination of your actual blindspots. Then maybe driving and practicing in empty parking lots.
Then when you're actually comfortable maybe get a good instructor who can spend time with you and get you comfortable on the road.
If it's not your thing. Then it's not your thing. That's cool too.
Also, if you can talk to a therapist. They can give you some good exercises to calm you down and put things into perspective.
Second the suggestion of just sitting in the car noticing what you can see and getting comfortable. Consider practicing some grounding exercises; you have good reason to be upset in a car and that's a distraction you don't need.
Also, many cars are more adjustable than you'd expect. Consider taking awhile to look at everything (mirrors for eg) and play with their positions. You can also sit on a pillow to get some height (though make sure pedals are comfortable).
Ooooh I really like the idea of spending time inside the car. Thanks!