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I'm not really sure if I have adhd or not at the moment and I just realised this. I'm not sure if this is related to adhd at all but I just find it weird looking into peoples eyes, when I listen to people I usually look out a window or something and sometimes people ask me weather I am listening and I didn't even realise I was looking out a window I kind of just assumed they knew I was listening.

Also as a side note, I have a lot of symptoms of adhd but I'm not sure if to enough of an extent, since I see a lot that everyone has the symptoms of adhd just not to the extent of someone that actually has adhd has.

Do you also have that one comment in the bottom of your lemmy inbox that you've been meaning to respond to for the last several weeks or months but you keep putting it off?

Do you also sit on your couch or bed and just stair out the window for like 30 minutes or longer at a time?

I also have struggle focusing on school work, this hasn't always been the case but it's a lot more now. Once the coffee from the morning wears off I can't focus for long enough to finish a small portion of a single Maths question before I'm staring out the window thinking about something completely unrelated, then about 5-10 minutes later I realised I'm distracted.

You've probably also noticed a pattern at this point, I love staring out windows!

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[–] erebion@news.erebion.eu 8 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (2 children)

To me this sounds like AuDHD, but this is obviously far from a diagnosis and I'm not a professional, I merely have read so much that I sometimes know better (lol)

Jokes aside, try this: https://rdos.net/eng/Aspie-quiz.php

It's so far the only online test that gets somewhat close to what a diagnosis would probably say and I've asked diagnosticians and they said it's useful to get a first idea whether to seek a diagnosis, as this mostly looks the same as their questionnaires. Don't forget to save the PDF with the full results at the end or you will have to do it again.

[–] Nangijala@feddit.dk 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I know this isn't about me but tried taking the test just for fun, expecting to be in the low end and it rats me out as having a 50% chance of being on the spectrum.

If it wasn't for the fact that waiting lists and my non-existient patience are completely incompatible, it would be pretty cool to get tested to see if there's something to all this adhd and now autism thing or if I'm just normie-weirdo.

Anyways, I wish you the best, OP. Big hugs also yes to all the things you mentioned in your OP post @pineapple@lemmy.ml

I do indeed have moments where I just zone out for a long time. Fx i have been meaning to go to bed for close to two hours now, yet im still sitting on my couch and shifting between spacing out and checking my phone. Tend to daydream a lot.

Yes I have several comments/messages both here, on signal and on texts waiting for my reply for days, weeks or months and several unfinished drafts for those comments/messages in my notes.

And yes I struggle with eye contact, but mostly when I'm speaking. I have gotten fairly okay at keeping eye contact while listening to someone talk, only breaking it when I think about something they are saying or if they ask me a question.

[–] pineapple@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Interesting, it seams like we are in a similar boat. Although I had a 100% chance of not being on the spectrum, although I forgot to save the pdf 💀 so I will do it again when I get around to it to get a better idea of the result.

Also go to sleep!

[–] Nangijala@feddit.dk 2 points 1 day ago

The fun thing about tests like these is that they indicate something but they could always be completely off either because the test taker isn't completely honest with themselves or are misinterpreting the question or some other reason. One can only be sure after they have seen a pro!

Personally, I have always known I wasn't completely normal. I thought I was super normal as a kid and that everybody else were the weird ones. But I'm also not weird enough for anything to be obvious with me. My spouse and I are 100% sure I have ADHD. He doesn't think I am autistic in any way. I don't know what I am, but I do find it interesting that the vast majority of people I have clicked with my whole life and have made friendships with are either ADHD or autistic or have some form of disorder like that. Every single one. My spouse is normal but grew up in a family full of ADHD'ers and has a few symptoms himself, but only the fun ones, like becoming obsessed with a hobby and getting really good at it and then suddenly dropping it when it no longer tickles his brain. Lucky bastard xD

Anyway! Good luck with the test again and I hope you get tested so you can get some answers! Especially if the symptoms you experience are disruptive to your life! Hug!

I hope you got some sleep also! XD

[–] pineapple@lemmy.ml 1 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Yeah ok thanks. I am currently looking into getting profesionally tested.

[–] erebion@news.erebion.eu 2 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

Depending on your country it can sometimes take years to get an appointment, so you might have to ask several places and be patient. That's why many people educate themselves and self-diagnose before they finally get an official diagnosis. Which makes sense, as it is mostly about understanding yourself better and not much else, so there's little risk something could go wrong there, lol.

[–] pineapple@lemmy.ml 1 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Oh wait that other lemmite was you...

Anyhow I did the test and got 100% neurotypical.

Are any semi reliable tests for adhd?

[–] erebion@news.erebion.eu 1 points 3 weeks ago

I doubt it said "100 % neurotypical", it gives a much more detailed result.

[–] pineapple@lemmy.ml 1 points 3 weeks ago

Where I am it should only take a few months, in the meantime some other lemmite showed me a test I should take.