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A "Showerthought" is a simple term used to describe the thoughts that pop into your head while you're doing everyday things like taking a shower, driving, or just daydreaming. The most popular seem to be lighthearted clever little truths, hidden in daily life.
Here are some examples to inspire your own showerthoughts:
- Both “200” and “160” are 2 minutes in microwave math
- When you’re a kid, you don’t realize you’re also watching your mom and dad grow up.
- More dreams have been destroyed by alarm clocks than anything else
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You have to keep searching. If you don't try, you won't get it.
Shit is awkward sometimes but great. You're right, finding people who are that right amount is difficult. Find them.
Yes, but also sometimes the more you try the worse it gets.
If I don't try to date, for example, I won't get a partner. OK, but I also won't have drinks thrown in my face, be screamed at, and be harassed by stalkers. All of which I have had to deal with in dating and was all so intensely negative I'm not sure the potential positive is worth it. I can't even talk about my hobbies, my history, on a date anymore in 2025 without being told what a stupid loser piece of shit I am. People are insane. 10 years ago I could talk about all that stuff and people thought it was cool.
society has become way more not just anti-social, but openly hostile to strangers. in 2015 I never had anyone scream at me on a date. even if they didn't like me they were just chill and polite about it. Now if they don't like you they flip out at you, call you names, and sometimes threaten you.
Same is true of many social spaces and groups I used to hang out with. Used to be very laid back. Now it is very hostile to anyone who is a 'non believer' of whatever dogma the space is espousing.
My best advice for finding a partner is to first find a best friend that evolves into a partner.
that's not how sex works though. people dont' want to be friends with people they want to fuck, and they dont' want to fuck people they are friends with.
and a romantic relationship requires the desire to fuck. so that's why people focus on that first and foremost.
I only read the abstract, but that appears to not be the case, and a majority of relationships start as friendships: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8892041/
Many people marry for different reasons. To each their own. In my eyes, I married for my forever partner. Beauty fades and I want more than a bang. I want someone who's brain will be my partner more than their body.
The "make friends first" method works for me for this. Yes I want to have sex but I don't want my intimacy to be wasted.