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Easy answer to human connection? Get a hobby. Don't have any? Force yourself to get one! Don't pretend to be into something you despise, but get out of your comfort zone. That could be working on cars, playing an instrument, singing, dancing, learning a language, reading books, woodworking, camping and outdoorsmanship, any of a number of sports... Hobbies are just a cheat code because if you're meeting someone for a hobby group you automatically have something in common that you're both interested in. Look for local meetups, even if your hobby is something as niche as like, playing Super Smash Bros Melee, you're likely to find at least a few meetups. Talk to people, hit it off, if you make a friend, get their contacts (e.g. phone number, Discord account, whatever) and then a little later, ask if they'd want to drop by and hang out, or maybe go to a restaurant together, or catch a movie- etc. It may be a little daunting to be the person who makes the offer, but you should try and be outgoing about it. This might sound kinda stilted, but with practice it'll become more natural. This also applies at least partially to dating, by the way- a partner is, in my mind, just a friend you want to keep a little closer than the rest.