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I'm not sure if this is the right place but me and my friend group have lately become privacy conscious and wanted to stop using discord and other types of social media, and only log onto self hosted options that only we can access.

we've eliminated something like Revolt (now named Stoat due to it missing ideal features and the developers being anti-decentralized (as well as being extremely hostile to the userbase noticably...)

Does anyone have any idea what would be an ideal service to use?

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[–] Eirikr70@jlai.lu 5 points 2 days ago (1 children)

There are many solutions. I have chosen xmpp/ejabberd/conversations/monal.

[–] ArchEngel@lemmy.ca 1 points 2 days ago (1 children)

You know, I'm really curious about xmpp, kinda wanna check it out, but then every time I am reminded that it exists it comes with a new and different chain of dependencies? other apps? whatever the other things are anyways that people list with it. And then I don't bother researching because suddenly it seems like the more complicated option. Not intending to insult, just lamenting.

[–] Andres4NY@social.ridetrans.it 2 points 2 days ago

@ArchEngel @Eirikr70 You can try it out by just downloading a client and registering an account on a free server. It's all here: https://xmpp.org/getting-started/.

Once you find a client you like and decide you want to stick with it, you can install a server you like. Prosody, snikket, and ejabberd are the most well-regarded (and snikket is just a fork of prosody that's designed to have a super easy setup; so realistically you're down to a choice between two).