So some context, my gf (I guess currently ex..) and I had been dating for ~8 months prior to Nov 8th, where we had a difficult "conversion" (Mostly me sobbing) about her needing to figure herself out in being polyamorous. This is the second time this happened, though the first time was very short lived and didnt result in anything being learned really.
I would consider myself mono, but I'm not opposed to trying new things. If it means I can stay with her I am willing to try anything, especially since our bond is insanely tight. Im the first person she felt the breakup conversation should happen in person and she was sobbing right along with me, though with a bit more control of her language.
I really don't know what to expect, as I just sent the message saying I'd be willing to try it once we go over our boundaries and recover from this whole thing (Shes likely at work, so I dont expect a response for a few hours). Anyone who has some insight it would be really appreciated to share.
I'm really scared, since its hard for me to find people in town that I bond with this closely. I need that physical bond, online relationships just dont work for me. I guess as a silver lining, me crying this much is a sign the hrt is starting to take some effect ๐
-Nikki
Looking at my transition from mono to ENM and when I experienced friends and lovers do it as well I can tell you that this might take time and sometimes it hurts and you make bad choices and suffer from the consequences. That's poly life how I see it. I saw couples break up over it, experiment with other people, learn more about themselves and then come back together and make it work.
There are some really great moments in that and eventually everyone has done their homework and it works out for long stretches till things change again and things repeat(the bad and good).
thank you for the advice, thats really relationships on general for me in regards to the highlights and lowlights. i appreciate your words