I made some off-hand comments on a post on 196 and didn't realize they'd be taken the wrong way. I made a few more comments to help clarify my idea but caught a blanket ban from blahaj.zone with no warning or message.

https://lemmy.world/modlog?page=1&actionType=All&userId=588349

I'm mortified :( It's never been my goal to make others feel bad online. I had a quibble with the wording on a meme and clumsily worded my idea of "Our differences shouldn't be minimized because they make us special" was seen as transphobia/TERF rhetoric.

But with no prior warnings or even a message from a mod to 'cool it', I got banned from the entire instance. I love these communities (feel free to look at my 2.5 years of comment/post history) and I would like to be able to continue to participate.

So, is there a formalized method of ban appeal beyond messaging mods? Their instance has like 12, so I don't want to spam them and have it seen as harassment.

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[–] JubilantJaguar@lemmy.world 8 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I’m mortified :( It’s never been my goal to make others feel bad online. I had a quibble with the wording on a meme and clumsily worded my idea of “Our differences shouldn’t be minimized because they make us special” was seen as transphobia/TERF rhetoric.

Try not to take it personally. You waded into a subject which has become a sort of rationality-free zone. Perhaps more so even than Israel-Palestine, or immigration in Europe. On these topics there is almost nobody left who is interested in nuanced debate, it's now only a question of identifying which "side" one's interlocutor is on, and then unloading on them (or downvoting, or deleting, or blocking, or banning) as appropriate. You stumbled into sterile trench warfare, basically.

Soon after I joined Lemmy I was banned from a (somewhat serious) community for making the same mistake you made. I learned my lesson. With certain topics, genuine debate - open-minded, good faith discussion - is just not possible. I see it as a failure of Lemmy, yes, but mainly of the whole medium of text-based social media. It's certainly not your fault.

[–] onlinepersona@programming.dev 6 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

@Zoomboingding@lemmy.world, @JubilantJaguar@lemmy.world is right. You stumbled onto an extremely hot topic on the fediverse. Blahaj is extremely sensitive to it, that's just how the community is.

If they dont want your identity (the current account you are using), just create a new one and use that one to learn their ways and become a good member of their community.

However, and I'm saying this out of completeness not because I actually believe this is what you want, if you just want to debate their points and break their rules knowingly, please don't. Just accept that they have different preferences than you do. Life is too short to willingly spend time where you aren't wanted.