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I work in tech and have since my teens. I've done contracting for web dev, I worked for a systems integrator, and I've been a sysadmin in my current position for six years. In the past six years, I've dodged several (at least three) layoffs, losing coworkers and getting more overworked each time. There are rumors of another round of layoffs happening in the next couple of months, and I can't help but feel like my luck will have finally run out.

It's something that I constantly think about at this point.. it's always in the back of my mind. To add to the stress, I'm the only earner in my relationship. My partner is more than willing (and would try) to get a job if something happens, but the current thing we've got going works very well. They take care of the house, do a large part of the household chores, and take care of our pet family. I am able to focus on work, and in the end we both have free time and are able to spend that time together.

Anyway, that's not to say that it isn't stressful to have everything financially on me, especially given the current tech job market. I'm worried that I'll lose my job, not be able to find a new one by the time unemployment expires, and then starve or lose our home.

When I was younger, I was very interested in being a national forest employee. Of course, they also haven't been paid and have been getting canned just the same, but I can't help but feel that I would've been more fulfilled doing that work. I'm still relatively young and probably would be able to switch to a different industry if it came to it, but I'm also not in the same physical health as I was before working in tech. I broke my leg three years ago and lost most of my leg strength, so I think working for state parks would be out.

Being honest, I don't know what to do. I'm so tired of possibly getting laid off. It's ruined most of my passion for tech. But I have no other marketable skills. I feel trapped

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[–] umbrella@lemmy.ml 11 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

felt exactly the same as you did and made a huge mistake trying to switch to something more palatable because nothing is palatable in late stage capitalism.

it is at least paying slightly more than average, while working slightly less. at least in my area.

[–] LainTrain@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

This put the fear of god in me, I can't stand my fucking job anymore and I hate the people I have to interact with, but it's comfy as fuck full WFH decent-ish pay and I often don't do any work for entire days at a time, I've been trying to find something else because I feel like the fun ride is coming to an end.

[–] umbrella@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

don't mention it. i'm on a similar situation overall and i simply have NO IDEA what to do now. i hate the reactionary grindset office culture type people too, and that's sadly in every office now. WFH is tolerable but they are simply not having it anymore.