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I've met multiple people and known them over the course of months and they wind up with the belief that I'm some master manipulator or rhetorician when I frankly don't have the competence for either. Granted, I'm not "super attractive" or "loved" by their account or anyone else's. I'm used to people disliking me, it's just sort of what I assume someone's reaction toward me is, but some of them really hated me without being able to give a commensurate justification. One of them said that about me but liked me anyway, and I found that one really confusing.
I only really know of one case in my life where I knew someone who could be described like that, except he wasn't really attractive or smart, but he was popular and I can substantiate that he was awful because he was continuously sexually harassing this woman publically in front of a ton of other people and everyone just fucking ignored it, but when I eventually spoke about it with her in private, well, it turned out that I very much wasn't imagining it and she felt like she was going insane because no one said anything.
But usually, I think that when someone has this response to someone else and there isn't a very clear explanation, it's sometimes more about the person's own hangups even if they have valid criticisms about the person.